You may seem silent next to your child, but as a mom, you shouldn’t keep mum and let the kiddo take over. An extrovert is an outward movement first, … Likewise with myself. What I am trying to figure out is how much each of us needs to feel recharged. All rights reserved. Then there’s my probably-extrovert child– just turned two, never stops talking (talked AT ALL WAY before her older, introvert brother, did– and her mom way back when too), always needs to be the center of attention. You can build time into the day where your kids work independently. And that’s part of it, but not all of it. To be completely honest, I didn't realize my daughter was an introvert for years. Any mummies having such pairing? Then, I took a step back and realized I was pushing her to do something that was completely unnecessary and causing her unneeded distress, so I apologized and told her she didn't have to do it if she didn't want to. But when I started to really understand being an introvert, I knew those times I craved for were due to my needing alone time, no work, no kids, in order for me to re-energize. So it can lead into a cycle of depletion. I can't say the same about my introvert child, though, and the struggles of being an extrovert mom raising an introvert kid are so damn real. I have and still do regularly and it really helps me accomplish things I’d have never tried otherwise. That's when it really began to impact me, but I don't know that I could have pinpointed the issue. Introverts have tiptoed into the spotlight lately, thanks mostly to Susan Cain and her book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. I am leaving in the morning for my first Type A conference (yes, I kind of resemble the name…). Even as a child, I was shy and hated being around a lot of people. We all make mistakes, especially as parents, and making excuses for my daughter was one of my biggest thus far. It's still something I have a hard time with, to be sure, but I've learned to not force her and to take deep breaths while she navigates her own social life. My daughter's dance school has a recital at the end of each season and I have always been impressed that my daughter was a willing participant. I thought if I forced her, she would be an extrovert. She always tried to get me to be less shy and more charming. We introverts are just as capable of being social butterflies and completely engaged parents, but at the end of a hectic day, we fill up our virtual gas tanks in very different ways to our extroverted buddies. That gave me time. Now I've stopped making excuses for her, because all that did was show my daughter that her absolutely normal behavior is something to apologize for. Still, if she is comfortable with a friend and someone new joins them, she retracts to her shell and begins to play on her own. Home schooling has so much flexibility and freedom. And Voxer is an audio app that allows you to send messages back and forth. Sometimes parents and their children can be polar opposites. If your child is an extrovert and you spend most of your days at home, begin to branch out and give him or her opportunities to be with others. Unfortunately, a mom’s work is never done, and some days it may be impossible to get some time to yourself. No one ever taught me how to make friends, because it just came naturally. Even if it sometimes makes me cringe and breaks my heart, I have to let her navigate her life in a way that is comfortable for her and not anyone else. Even when the kids were little, I gave it my best shot. Offering insight, ideas, and reassurance, it’s a welcome addition to the canon of literature for introverts. A child that loves to talk (and talk and talk), and say hello to everyone, and play with friends all the time, and be in your business every minute of every day. Yet introverted mothers face unique challenges. 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